Your fibro will go away they said...

They lied.

In fact my fibro is far worse than it has ever been in my life, but now, I have no way to even help manage the pain, the brain fog, the tender points that make a physical relationship difficult.... The lack of sleep, the constant unending agony of daily life. "It's not instant" they said, well that's great, I am not expecting instant, but I certainly was NOT expecting worse.

I have put in a request to see a rheumatologist, but who knows when that will happen. In the meantime, I don't know how long I can handle this. Something has got to give, and I'm afraid it might be me.

Brusies and shrinking boobs...

Two things I've never had, small breasts and bruisable skin. I never visibly bruise. I'm one of those invisible bruisers.... You know the kind who forgets they hurt themselves until you lightly brush the area and then they whimper like school children? Yeah I'm that person, or at least I was.....

The purpose of this post? Not to whine or complain, but to stress the importance of BLOOD TESTS after surgery. Your iron levels with drop, along with everything else. With low levels of everything, comes bruises, hair loss, exhaustion, muscle loss, inability to concentrate, and much much more. Now I go for my blood tests in less than two weeks, but with all of the new issues popping up, I know what will be low. KEEP ON TOP OF YOUR BLOOD LEVELS, get checked regularly, and if in doubt, don't be afraid to ask for more tests.

Onto the boob shrinkage... TMI, yes I know, but to me this is an important topic. I love(d) my breasts. I mean really, I've had them since puberty (age 7), they've been with me everywhere. They've caused back problems, but given me pillows when sleeping upon my stomach.... They've threatened to suffocate me if I slept upon my back, and made running the most painful thing since stepping on Lego's barefoot; but truly, the shrinking is TERRIFYING. When you wake up one day and notice that all of your bras are TOO BIG..... that you could fit padding and push up stuff inside of your bra WITH your breasts is a scary experience (ok maybe it's just me).... We all have to get used to the shrinking FAST, and the way I'm dealing is giving all of my bras to my mum, who could use some pretty bras, and adopting sports bras.... (Yeah sports bras, should NOT be called that, because running is the WORST in a "sports" bra, as is jumping rope, climbing or doing anything that causes the breasts to move.....) These will stretch or shrink with my body (I'm crying here), and make it so I'm not wasting a crap ton on new bras that will only fit for about a week.

You will shrink, even if the numbers on your scale don't shift, your muscles and fat will shift and give you a new body shape... You may miss the comfort, or take joy in the changes, but whatever you do, stay on the path. You've got this!

P.S. thanks for letting me cry about mah boobs <3

10 Weeks Tomorrow

...and it seems everyone but me is noticing a difference. I see nothing different, aside from dry skin, dry hair, dry nails, and super flappy arm skin. I'm eating pretty much anything (in super tiny amounts) except for breads, pasta and rice (that stuff is NOT easy on the pouch at all)... with only a few minor set backs...

 As a kid, right after trick or treating, did you hide out (in a fort) and eat all the candy you could? Then end up with horrible stomach pain, chills, and maybe even start puking? Yeah, well that's what it's like now... and only one teeeeny little teaspoon can make the difference.

Tea. I LOVE tea, but I made the mistake of letting someone else make my tea the other day... and that moment, I was introduced to DUMPING SYNDROME.

Yeah, I use big red font, because dumping syndrome is NOT fun. It sounds pretty gross, and feels pretty gross too... Symptoms differ from person to person, but everyone (bariatric patient or not) has a chance of experiencing it. Here's a list of the symptoms:

• A feeling of fullness, even after eating just a small amount.
• Abdominal cramping or pain.
• Nausea or vomiting.
• Severe diarrhea.
• Sweating, flushing, or light-headedness.
• Rapid heartbeat.

Ok so the fullness after small amounts is common after surgery.... I didn't get the cramps, but what I got was the flushed body, rapid heart beat (like a humming bird I swear), and was covered in sweat so thick the shower couldn't help me. There isn't much you can do but lay down for an hour or so and just let the wave pass, take some tiny sips of water, and just hold on. I know I say this often, but think before you put anything into your mouth, and if someone else makes your coffee, or tea.... keep an eye on that sugar, because the Dumping is just not worth that extra teaspoon.

Nearly 8 weeks out...

...and I'm finding the support group to be not at all supportive. I discuss my issues, and worries, and get told to pull up my big girl panties... I talk about my worsening health condition and get told that "It isn't an overnight fix..." Yes thanks "Support people" I know this. What I NEED is someone to say "Yeah I know, it sucks too." So since I can't discuss my problems, or fears with this "Support" group, what can I do, but keep quiet and deal with the issues myself and through blogging. Hopefully, any of you considering Bariatric surgery get more support than I have, if you ever need it, but feel like you aren't getting it, shoot me an e-mail, I'll be happy to offer advice, or just listen to your complaints. 

This surgery isn't all roses and rainbows, it's an annoying struggle for over eaters; and torture for meal skippers like myself. Sure the end result might make you forget all the bad, but the journey WILL be a struggle as you unlearn old habits, and try to create new, GOOD habits. Let me offer you a glimpse into the worlds of both over eaters, and under eaters:

If you are an over eater, or a food addict (like many who need this surgery are), you will have to fight a battle with your mind, more than your body. You will have to stop, think, and look at why you are eating. Are you truly hungry? Or are you upset, stressed, happy, congratulatory? Stop, think, and decide whether or not you need to fill your new stomach or not. You need to decide if that ice cream will really make you feel better, or if its just an old fall back. Is it worth it?

For us meal skippers, we need to set alarms. I mean it. You will not be hungry, same as you weren't before hand. If you get sad/happy/angry/tired/etc, you don't want to eat (trust me, I deal with this ALWAYS). That alarm goes off, YOU EAT. You have to, if you don't, you will stall, and your body may start retaining water.... which leads to weight gain (albeit temporary), which leads to depression, and more not wanting to eat. I don't care if it's one bite of chicken, or a teaspoon of humus, but you HAVE to eat post op, it may seem wrong to eat to lose weight, but if you don't, you can't function. Take it one bite at a time, and remember to ask yourself.... Is this bite worth it?

ASK YOURSELF: Is this bite worth it? You will be full, for HOURS on a few nibbles... so nutritionally, is that bite you're about to put in your mouth worth it?

Best of luck, stay strong.

Alicia

P.S. If you need me, I'll be here.

Lets talk diet

Now post op is no walk in the park, most people think it is, but it isn't. I write this as I sit on a bus, and have just been given the clear to go to the next food phase. Pureed food.

REWIND

Weeks 1 and 2 post op are full liquids. This definition is a bit foggy, so let me explain it for you. Broth, soups (strained), greek yogurt (or any yogurt with less than 10g sugar per serving), unsweetened apple sauce, cream of wheat, and oatmeal. We can have milk (1% or skim), protein shakes (not me, it hurt me bad), water, and juice diluted with water (50/50).

Now for me, this was hard because I HATE everything listed baring the milk, and water... Regardless, I've been a good girl and my new "baby stomach" has handled everything I've thrown at it with grace, so... WE'RE MOVIN' ON UP!!

STARTING MONDAY!

Cue weeks 3 and 4 - Pureed foods!
This is all of last weeks stuff plus: humus, cooked or canned fruit and veggies (pureed), cooked meats and fish(pureed and softened with broth), crackers (they are like mush after your tongue hits em), non-sugar coated cereals (soaked and soggy in milk) and a few other things I dont recall from my bus ride.

This week is exciting for me as, one, its my birthday on the 15th, and I'm dying to get my mouth on some meat (hello double entendre, I walked right into this one). I'm not sure if breakfast will be a mini wheat (yes just one), or a tablespoon of tuna, but I know it'll be awesome.

****CRAVINGS HAPPEN****

Trust me, even if you're a meal skipper, or a binger,  cravings happen. Mine is still a burger (no bun), with some fresh mozzarella,  caramelized onions and mushrooms.... Now the issue? My stomach can only hold a mushroom at this point. So I'll wait a while (maybe August/September), and when I finally get my burger it will be amazing.

So whether you're on my path, or not... remember the trip is yours and no one else's issues, or joys will match your own.

I should've started this a while ago...

I started the bariatric "journey" July 22nd 2014, and for me, it is a road I never wanted to travel.

That's right, I did not choose this surgery, not even close. Instead, I chose to get rid of my PCOS the best way possible, by having them take out my extremely cystic ovaries. They refused. On the grounds that "you are too young to make that decision for your own body." So instead, they said the only way they would be willing to fix my PCOS is weight loss surgery... Now lets get to the funny part of this... The PCOS is what caused the weight gain, not food addiction, not eating when I shouldn't, not emotionally eating... the PCOS caused the gain.

Fast forward to surgery prep, months and months (11 months to be exact) of them telling me that I am like the other 95% of patients who get this surgery, which I'm not. The dieticians here assume we are ALL raging food addicts who do nothing but eat crap day and night... well, I'm here to say we aren't. I am in that 5% of people who are getting this surgery, not because I eat (in fact I'm a meal skipper), but because I developed an illness that caused the gain. No matter what I did, exercise, dieting, starving myself, and skipping meals because I just have no appetite when I'm irritated.... the weight from the PCOS just did not shift. 

-------------------------------------------On To Surgery-------------------------------------------

Waking up from the surgery was hard, you can't really focus on anything and your eyes want nothing more than to close so you can nap more..... An hour after the anesthesia wears off they let you get up and go to the bathroom, its a damn good thing they let me get up, because the first chance you get you will want to race down to the closest shoppers drug mart you can (bloody hospital gown, and IV rack n all) find for some lotion. The dryness of the hospital is worse than the pain of having your innards twisted, cut, burned, and readjusted to a new stomach (the size of an egg).

Day 2, was a bad day, and a good day.... I went 15 hours without pain medication, when they are supposed to give it every 3 hours... I pressed that button so many times, begging in tears.... when the meds were finally given, I was able to get up and move about. 

Day 3, I was released (HALLELUJAH). I took the train home, was not staying another day in Toronto. On my train ride they served me a meal, which I knew I couldn't eat, but it was boiled chicken and broccoli, with honeydew melon, cantaloupe, and strawberries.... Now every bariatric patient tests things, and MOST claim it was the worst thing ever.... I tested the chicken, and both melons, and it was awesome. Seriously awesome. No adverse reactions, but I wasn't risking it again.... Just in case.

I am now 8 days out of surgery, and the "liquid" diet is the most disgusting crap I have ever put into my mouth. The protein caused the "pouch" so much pain, I was sprawled out, across three seats on the bus, just gasping for breath.... so getting in my protein shakes is proving to be impossible. The past few days I've been able to only handle some oatmeal, applesauce, and water... I cheated and had a strawberry, and that was AWESOME. No adverse effects from the berry, in fact I felt amazing after it, so I may be adding that into my diet much sooner than anticipated. 

I'll post more in the future, but for now, those are my observations, and confessions.

Note: Because I was adventurous and tried these things, does not mean I advise you to do the same. The pain of non-tolerated foods/drinks is absolutely horrendous.